Failing to Fail

What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail? That’s a powerful and provocative question asked by coaches and magazine surveys aiming to help you elevate your happiness quotient.

And it’s an uncomfortably BIG question when your reality presents you with a sink full of dishes, bills to be paid, laundry to be done, people to be fed, projects to complete, schedules to be kept, and on and on. Failure? Not an option. Don’t try, do. Do now, do again, keep doing, do more — so much that needs to be done — by you.

Do you feel like you’re “failing” because the doing of these necessary daily tasks is taking every bit of your life’s energy and all your time?

Will you take a few minutes to clarify what “not failing” (aka “success”) looks like in this moment? Your view will be different from mine, from your sister’s, your best friend’s, your mother’s. It’s the view from where you are and it will vary depending how far off in the distance you’re looking. Look at it close-up: what is “not failing” for you, right now, in this moment/hour/day? Can you get that image clear enough in your own thinking that you can identify one next step to take to reach that destination as easily as possible?

What is one single thing you can do that gets you closer to feeling on-track, closer to having a successful outcome? Will you do it?

  • Will you empty the dishwasher of clean dishes or finish filling it and run the load? One thing.
  • Will you gather all of the mail that hasn’t been opened? One thing.
  • Will you sit with your calendar, electronic or paper, and enter all scheduled events for you and your family? One thing.
  • Will you make a list of the top three projects you want to work on completing? One thing.

Each of these moves you forward. One step now, then the next.To_do_list_(blank)

If this is too difficult or overwhelming to do on your own, it’s a great topic to explore with a coach. Coaching can give you the opportunity to shift your perspective, change the view, reach the destination…and even enjoy the journey. Contact me!


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